Autism Inclusivity
Autism Inclusivity group rules
Here is where you can find our rules. please ensure that your joining answers for our group are up to date using the button below, and for ease of reading, each individual rule can be accessed via the below buttons, or scroll down to read them in one go.
Rule one:
RULE 1: NO DIETARY/MEDICAL ADVICE OR NATURAL REMEDIES.
A. We are not dieticians or doctors, please seek licensed medical care.
B. No mention of any medication or genre of medication for any reason. This includes advice about, melatonin, 'functional medicine', supplements and vitamins, diet changes, GcMaf, CBD, essential oils, natural remedies, MMS.
C. No armchair diagnosing.
This includes saying "I saw a doctor and they gave me meds for that" "I was on medication for that" "my child needs medication for this" or any variation.
This means:
No suggesting anything above.
No talking about "your experience" with any of the above.
So do not do this:
"I use x and it works for me"
"Have you tried x"
"I'm on x"
"I was out on some meds that helped"
Rule two:
RULE 2: NO VACC1NE RELATED POSTS.
We do not believe that Autism is caused by vacc1nes. To prevent debate, we do not allow comments or posts about vacc1nes, period.
This means: No mentioning vacc1nes. At all. This includes the covid vacc1ne. Even if you're denouncing the myth.
So do not do this:
"It's like the whole thing about vacc1nes"
"He's going for his jab on tuesday"
Rule three:
RULE 3: NO PRO ABA, AUTISM SPEAKS, PUZZLE PIECE SYMBOLS.
A. No ‘autism is a tragedy’ narratives.
B. Don’t use functioning labels i.e. 'mild' or 'severe' autism, 'low' or 'high' functioning, or 'level 1,2,3'.
C. No PFL as this is harmful to the community, this includes "has/with autism" and "ASD".
D. No aspie supremecy (or aspergers at all)
E. Do not promote puzzle pieces as symbols of autism.
F. No suggesting violating bodily autonomy.
This means:
No "high functioning" or "Low functioning"
No "I like the puzzle piece" or "this is a cute puzzle piece"
No "ASD". please use "autistic"
We also do not allow certain pages to be promoted here, including but not limited to: finding coopers voice, autism speaks, joy of autism, fathering autism.
So do not do this:
"My son has asd"
"I love the puzzle piece"
"I'm high functioning"
"He has autism"
Do not suggest doing ANYTHING to a child whilst sleeping (even with consent) or without their consent.
Rule four:
RULE 4: NO IMAGES OF MELTDOWN, NUDITY OR INJURIES.
A. You must be 16+ to join this group
B. No images/videos of meltdown or distress.
C. Minors must be fully clothed covering their torso and upper legs.
D. No images of injuries.
This means:
Do not share meltdown videos.
Do not share images of injuries.
Do not share images of soiled underwear/clothes.
DO NOT SHARE PHOTOS OF A CHILD IF THEIR TORSO AND UPPER LEGS ARE NOT COVERED.
Rule five:
RULE 5: NO FUNDRAISING, PROMOTIONS OR SPAM.
A. No sponsor links, fund raisers, or spam. B. Promotion of blogs, pages, or businesses is allowed only if the author or owner is #ActuallyAutistic, on appropriate admin made promotion posts.
C. Don't send members unsolicited messages.
D. Research studies must be approved by an admin.
this means: what it says on the tin. Don't share links for blogs and pages that aren't autistic owned, and don't share fundraisers here. We cannot vet every single fundraiser to make sure no one is being scammed.
AND DO NOT SEND UNSOLICITED MESSAGES TO GROUP MEMBERS.
Do not ask members to PM you for more information either, we cannot monitor private messages, and so cannot make sure our group members are receiving safe information.
So do not do this:
"I have a fundraiser if anyone can share"
"Look at this blog by someone with an autistic kid"
"Pm me if you want to know more"
Rule six:
RULE 6: NO TONE POLICING OR CLUSTER B SHAMING.
A. No tone Policing, accusing others of being rude, harsh, judgmental, a bully or nasty.
B. No cluster b shaming, no calling people "narcisists" or "narcissist", or anything under the cluster b umbrella.
C. No grammar/spelling shaming.
This means:
No tone policing. No claiming other group members are "attacking" "berating" "being rude" "being nasty" or "bullying". If admin see actual comments that are of an abusive or bullying nature, those will be dealt with, but we will not stop our group members communicating bluntly. Please do not pre-emptivley tone police either, don't ask our members to "be nice and respectful". Tone Policing explanation: https:///original-posts/tone-policing
DO NOT USE NARCISSIST AS AN INSULT. No "narcissistic abuse" "what a narc". This goes for all cluster B shaming. Explanation on cluster b shaming here: https://madfemmeby.medium.com/why-cluster-b-shaming-needs...
So do not do this:
"Stop berating op"
"Everyone stop attacking op"
"First time poster, so be nice and don't tear me apart"
"She's such a narcissist"
"Classic narc behaviour"
Do not shame or correct people's spelling. This is not an English lesson, this is a Facebook group. It is unnecessary and ableist.
Rule seven:
RULE 7: NO BRINGING DRAMA FROM OTHER SPACES:
A. Do not bring other group drama ("this group is not safe", "this group uses the puzzle piece" etc.)
B. Sharing screenshots from Autism Inclusivity outside of the group will lead to a ban.
This means:
Don't post comments or posts complaining about other Facebook groups, or trying to get people to go and educate in other groups. Intergroup drama can literally ruin groups and lead to them being archived or removed.
DO NOT SHARE SCREENSHOTS FROM THIS GROUP ELSEWHERE. The admin team are in many many groups, and check regularly. Our group members will also let us know if they see anything, and you will be immediately banned. Anyone who sees screens being shared outside the group, please feel free to message one of us, or put a post in pending with screens of that post, so we can immediately remove that member. Your post won't be approved, and no one will share that it was you.
Rule eight:
RULE 8: REPORTING PROBLEMATIC COMMENTS AND POSTS.
Report issues to us by:
A. Using the 'report to admin' feature on posts or comments that need our attention.
B. tagging us by using @ before our names (listed under Members, at the top).
C. Commenting the words "admin" or "mod" followed by your problem.
D. Putting a post in pending.
E. Contacting us using our page: Facebook
This means: exactly as above. Tag us, report to us, or comment mod or admin, or put a post on pending.
Rule nine:
RULE 9: DIRTY DELETES, MUTES AND MESSAGING ADMIN:
A. Dirty Deleting your post and/or comment will lead to an automatic removal from the group. ALL deletes. We don't allow this because it silences voices and erases emotional energy people took to respond.
B. Do not send admin messages debating your mute if you were already provided with reasons for your mute. This too may possibly lead to a removal from the group.
C. No blocking admins.
This means:
Don't delete your comments.
Don't delete your post.
If you see someone has deleted and you have screens, please let an admin know.
If you message us complaining about a mute, and the mute was fair (not accidental, accidental mutes can happen), then you risk being banned. This is usually reserved for members who become abusive towards us.
Do not block us. We can still see you, and we will ban you.
Rule ten:
RULE 10: COMMENTING ON POSTS
A. Only AUTISTIC members are permitted to comment on posts.
Self diagnosis is valid.
The OP (Original Poster) of posts can comment and reply to comments on their OWN posts only.
All members are ONLY allowed to comment on admin posts that specifically state that all members are permitted to comment.
B. Members are reminded not to turn off comments on their posts - only Admin can do this
This means:
If you aren't autistic DON'T COMMENT.
Not in the replies.
Not with a question.
Not tagging someone.
Not "on behalf of someone"
Do. Not. Comment.
The only posts where non autistics can comment are admin posts such as these that specify "all voices welcome" or "all members may comment. Non autistic members may react to comments and posts, or comment ON THEIR OWN POSTS.
Do not turn of comments, you are welcome to turn off your notifications, or ask if we can turn off comments, but only admin are to turn them off. This is because we have had a lot of members using the "turn comments off" feature to silence autistic voices.